Sunday, April 17, 2011
EMPOWER YOURSELF: Your Inner Guidance
Your Inner Guidance
YOUR INNER GUIDANCE
You have a map that guides your life. It is internal to your being, and is some- times called “your internal map of reality.“ It is called your inner map of reality because you use it as the truth for your living moment by moment.
Most of the views expressed in this Blog, are not new to you. However, sometimes I present them from a new angle. Anyway, you will only warm to those ideas that fit with your internal map of reality. That map was created from the experiences, joys, hurts, trauma, and exhilaration that you have tasted in your journey from the womb to the present time.
It is natural for the mind to think, analyze, follow logic, and be caught up in dilemma and complexity. However, often you lose sight of the fact that the mind is only a tool, and it is not your essence. The mind structures your internal map of reality to take account of your premier relationship, which is safety in the family.
Your views, values, concerns, hopes, aspirations, vision, and creative spirit are all nurtured, and at the same time destroyed, in the crucible of the family relationship. This is a formation that takes place quite automatically, and often without any formal structure. Thus, you need to become more conscious of your core values, and live in harmony with them.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Learn From Disappointments
Learn From Disappointments
Learn From Disappointments
In life you experience both success and failure. When you fail or lose, it simply means that you did not get what you wanted. Your attitude towards disappointment should be that you can learn something useful from the event. Every experience of success or failure has a lesson to be learned. Losing is never fun, as it hurts in so many different ways, especially when it’s something that you wanted badly—but learn the lesson.
I recall in my mid 20s I was denied the opportunity to be appointed a Management Cadet Prison Officer, although I had topped the list of applicants at the interview. I was really disappointed, and resentful of the Senior Administrative Officer who advised that it was a waste of my talents to be placed in Prison Administration. How dare him to determine what was good for me. It meant dashing my plans to become an attorney-at-law.
However, learning from the experience, I went on to obtain a scholarship to study in the United Kingdom for a degree in business economics, finishing up being a chartered secretary, and a chartered accountant as well. Eventually, I retired as chairman and managing director of a commercial bank. Develop the attitude that disappointments merely occur to strengthen your resolve!
Instead of having negative monologues about your disappointments, you have the opportunity to take time to reflect, rethink, recollect or re-group on what to do differently for your future success. Follow this process, and you are guaranteed to come out swinging harder and better the next time. You have everything to gain by examining the seeds of disappointment, to learn the success story that they embody. Press on, and learn.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
EMPOWER YOURSELF: Learn From Disappointments
Sunday, April 10, 2011
EMPOWER YOURSELF: Learn From Disappointments
Learn From Disappointments
Learn From Disappointments
In life you experience both success and failure. When you fail or lose, it simply means that you did not get what you wanted. Your attitude towards disappointment should be that you can learn something useful from the event. Every experience of success or failure has a lesson to be learned. Losing is never fun, as it hurts in so many different ways, especially when it’s something that you wanted badly—but learn the lesson.
I recall in my mid 20s I was denied the opportunity to be appointed a Management Cadet Prison Officer, although I had topped the list of applicants at the interview. I was really disappointed, and resentful of the Senior Administrative Officer who advised that it was a waste of my talents to be placed in Prison Administration. How dare him to determine what was good for me. It meant dashing my plans to become an attorney-at-law.
However, learning from the experience, I went on to obtain a scholarship to study in the United Kingdom for a degree in business economics, finishing up being a chartered secretary, and a chartered accountant as well. Eventually, I retired as chairman and managing director of a commercial bank. Develop the attitude that disappointments merely occur to strengthen your resolve!
Instead of having negative monologues about your disappointments, you have the opportunity to take time to reflect, rethink, recollect or re-group on what to do differently for your future success. Follow this process, and you are guaranteed to come out swinging harder and better the next time. You have everything to gain by examining the seeds of disappointment, to learn the success story that they embody. Press on, and learn.