BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

Reflection # 4 from the book, Reflective Empowerment, that was judged by

Reader Views as the Walsh Seminars

Award for Best Personal Growth Book

of the Year, 2010.

Reflection 4. Building relationships

You are so different from other persons that you have a unique DNA. This means

that to have a good and proper relationship with someone else requires a common

platform where you can relate to each other with a common understanding.

This is definitely not easy to do.

Despite individual uniqueness, there are some elements and core values that

are common to most humans. Thus, if you can adopt them, there is a good

chance that you can develop and improve any relationship. There are four areas

of credibility that foster good relationships. These are:

• Credibility with yourself. Do you believe in who you are, and what you

do. Then, others can believe in you, and trust you.

• Credibility of your intent. What is your intention in the relationship?

Is it for your exclusive benefit, or is it for your mutual benefit?

• Credibility of your capacity. What is your capability, skills and talents

in relation to what you are purporting to deliver?

• Credibility of the results of your track record. Your ability to get things

done, and to make things happen.

There are certain behaviors of people who are highly trusted in relationships.

Three of these key behaviors are:

• You must demonstrate concern for the other person

• You must deliver results consistently

• You must be your word, and keep your commitments rigorously—no

excuses

Deepen these elements of behavior, and you will surely experience enhanced

relationships.